The Yeti tells the secret of the America.#

Psst. You wanna know a secret? It's hidden in plain sight. Here it is.

Some people say you can't make it in this country because of disadvantages. Or that's it too hard.

That's not true. Really, it's not true. Riches are yours for the having. I can guarantee it. The problem is you're either lazy, or don't think riches are everything in life.

Let me explain. No, is too much. Let me sum up.

Every minute you spend watching television. Every minute you spend in a bar. Every minute you spend rading junk books, sleeping more than six hours, playing video games, talking on the phone, going to church, playing with kids, creating kids, or spending time with your loved ones is wasted time in the money game.

Richard on Al3x and his desire for "an ASOW (Attractive Slightly Older Woman.)"#

It scares me how awesome that is. Al3x must have read this book, or at least may agree with the premise that women in their early twenties are having sex recreationally all the while not realizing that when they reach their late-twenties, they will become sick of being considered as sluts, are will start looking to settle down and possibly even settle for. Women in their early twenties, Crittenden argues, don't realizing they're sacrificing near future happiness by marrying now, because to them, marriage means not having fun. But marriage—or at least a relationship based on long-term commitment—means security and not having to live alone anymore. And they don't realize, while in their early twenties, that the supply of women in their early twenties is inexhaustible, while the supply of older men as the women get older diminishes.

Richard links to Modern Flirting.#

In the spirit of gender equality, many a young woman has discarded the slow, subtle arts of flirtation and charm that females have used successfully on males for millennia, and replaced them with quick, direct strikes: punching her number into his cell phone memory, rubbing his shoulders, grinding with him on the dance floor, hooking up in the spare bedroom at a party.

The result has not been an especially happy one, some young women say, for though they may snag the guy in question, it's only until he gets a better offer. As the one being pursued, a woman used to be able to set the course and pace of a relationship. As the pursuer, she relinquishes control, not to mention the fun of being chased.

Richard on Brutal Images of Black Masculinity.#

Felicia R. Lee on Tricia Rose: "From her perch, the stories are bleaker than ever. She still listens to a lot of hip-hop, a genre she deeply appreciates despite its warts and contradictions. But straying from the music's roots in alienation, the narratives and videos of today's best-selling commercial hip-hop are more misogynistic and more infected with brutal images of black masculinity, she said. The pimp is a recurring trope, reflecting black needs for power and control of women and white fantasies about black sexuality and violence."

Andrew Grumet on weblogs.#

Making money and influencing people can happen but that's a small part of the story. Replacing a traditional media stream with weblog that looks and feels like a traditional media stream is a small part of the story. The big story IMO is that weblogs and weblog technology make it easier for us to find each other. In "old" days (Yahoo! Groups), we had to run central servers and require people to sign up before connections could be made. If the server went down, the community went on hold. If the organization running the server died, the community died. In the "old old" days (Usenet), we were all locked in a room together, No Exit style, and did the best we could to keep the trolls at bay.

Weblogs, among other things, facilitate highly robust, amorphous, constantly changing, overlapping, individually filterable communities that are like nothing that has come before.

Dave Winer writes about working together.#

We need more working together. Personal animus is a total waste of energy. Let's not be wasteful. None of us have that much time. They're not going away soon, and with any luck, neither am I (praise Murphy). We have big fish to fry. Okay this was a setback. Let's focus on forward motion now.

I'm glad I wrote The Rule of Win-Win before this happened. We need to have a summit not about technology but about philosophy. We need to talk about what we're doing on the Web, all of us. Maybe we're not all doing the same thing, or maybe we are. Let's find out.

Dave Winer writes about a conversation him and I had.#

At dinner last night, one of our regulars, Jay McCarthy, was talking about his favorite programming language, Lisp. I like Jay, we all do. He's young, smart, and courageous. He talks back. That's good. Later that night he pressed one of my buttons, not sure if he knew he was doing it. (I bet he did.) He said that it's understandable that a platform vendor would choose to bundle a scripting language, and if it wiped out the other languages, well that's just the way it works. I had to think about this. Is this right? I don't think so. If such a rule had existed in the 80s, that probably would have been the end of Lisp, right? And Jay was born in the 80s. So his favorite language would have been nuked before he would have had a chance to fall in love with it. I rest my case.

Going into this conversation my opinion was that if the users of a platform have a huge desire for a feature then it is perfectly reasonable to have that feature be part of the platform. Whether this was by new development or bundling/licensing the exist product(s) that provided the feature didn't really matter to me. My worst-case scenario was that if the platform vendor wanted to bundle application X but didn't like the terms of the bundling, then why should X's creator be allowed to hold them hostage because the platform CAN'T provide a feature?

One of the great things about Dave, one of my favourite things about talking to him, is that he was there. Like most people older and more experienced than I, Dave can tell me about how a situation REALLY IS, not just how it might be hypothetically if it were to occur. I'm very thankful to know Dave because of this and more.

After the conversation my opinion has changed but I'm not really sure how. How should applications and features become part of systems - should they at all? I don't know. But whatever the solution is I think that it will probably be the one that works best for the users - not the proprietors of platforms or packages.

Thanks for being you Dave.

Frank J. reviews Kill Bill.#

The story can be summed up in one word: revenge. The movie is all style, and there's no reason to dwell on the deeper meaning of it. And while there is a lot less dialogue in this film than the previous Tarantino films, the dialogue that is there is great. Better than the dialogue, though, is the action. It's pretty much all martial arts and, of course, there is an extended samurai sword fight at the end. As for the realism, it's more brutal than something like Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon and looks like the people are trying to really kill each other instead of just dance. Still, it's pretty stylized at times, and the sword fight as too much "clang clang" to be like real samurai sword fighting. Unlike in the imported samurai flicks of old I've been watching where the evidence that someone is cut is just seeing the sword connect and hearing a yell, though, blood and limbs fly in this fight. After slaughtering like a hundred underlings, the final showdown between the heroine, The Bride, and one of the five on her death list, Cottonmouth, I thought was particularly well done as an aficionado of samurai sword fights.

BTW, you don't even see his face in this first half, but the main villain, Bill, kicks ass. Apparently he's an old fashioned killer, a regular cowboy/samurai) preferring a katana and a peacemaker (I may not have gone to some fancy film school, but let's see Ebert identify a gun when the only view you get is the barrel pointed at the screen). From the little teasing we get of the character in this (mainly just his voice and seeing nothing more than his hand), I can't wait to find out more about him in the second half of the movie. And, when the Bride finally gets her chance to kill Bill in February, it better be the actions sequence to end all action sequences to meet the hype carefully built in this first half. Four and a half out of five stars, and, for God's sake, leave the kids at home.

On Kuro5hin is a story of why one vegetarian is going back.#

However, I soon find out that people react very badly to vegetarians. Otherwise rational people might tell me I will turn green and die. In a cold Canadian climate, meat is essential. Everybody knows that. Sometimes, they leer at my plate, and launch into tirades about how much they like meat and how they could never "do it". When people aren't nicely volunteering such information, they are preemptively attacking me for my wicked ways.

While there are some militant vegetarians, most don't think they're superior, or even give a damn that you're eating meat, that you enjoy it, or think you could never live without it. Most won't say "moo" when you're having that steak or hamburger. They are not a threat, so why do some people feel the need to justify their choices? Can't we just "eat and let eat"? Most of the comments I heard were stupid, ignorant and boorish. Like telling the only black person at a party that you know some black people and even have some black friends, telling a vegetarian about how you could never give up meat (maybe even thought of it) just isn't kosher. And don't even think of asking about how we get enough protein or iron - another sure way to advertise your own etiquette deficiency. The etiquette is simple: unless the vegetarian is telling you how bad you are for eating meat - or how virtuous they are for not doing so, there's no need to dwell on the topic.

Link Love...#

My first non-English link!

illmatic, an interesting blog but with no RSS feed :(

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David Giacalone calls me, "the tres vague proprietor of makeoutcity.com", hah!

Damn Sellouts!#

Jim Moore wonders if now is General Clark's opportunity.#

John F. Kennedy's book Profiles in Courage emphasizes that leaders have their moments--when through a combination of courage and clarity they can rise to make a difference.

General Clark is able to credibly challenge Bush administration approaches to war making and diplomacy. In particular, General Clark has been very convincing when arguing that preemptive military strikes and a stated strategy of such strikes tends to work against our long-term US interests. Far from stabilizing the world scene, the evidence to date is that the doctrine of preemption encourages terrorism and other forms of aggression against us.

Ryan Overbey puts it best.#

Here is the most depressing piece of news I've seen in some time. The President of the United States writes some of the most embarrassing poetry I've ever seen. And he calls his wife lump in the bed. Yuck. For shame, Mr. President, for shame!

Ryan Overbey writes about why the study of religion matters.#

The United States and the European Union will be completely unable to deal sensibly with Islamic regimes, even moderate ones like Malaysia, until they understand exactly what's at stake, what is taken for granted, and what the goals are. Always remember that Mahathir is a moderate. There are plenty of Muslims who wouldn't mind erasing the Israeli state with some good-old-fashioned genocide. There are plenty of Muslims, many whom I met in democratic, Western-friendly India, who maintained that the United States was simply a pawn of the Jewish state, and who were very proud that Osama did what he did. When I asked whether they wanted to see America destroyed, I would often see a big grin. "Yes. Very much."

It's an uncomfortable truth, but we have to deal with it. Our continued support of Israel has been, and always will be, fundamental to the Islamic understanding of Americans and American policy. We can't talk about democracy and trade and human rights as if these things will solve the problems of the Muslim world. A stable, secure Middle East would require the destruction or silencing of influential Islamic communities and teachers, radical reform of Islamic schools. Bombs do not destroy faith, and money cannot buy faith. And it is ultimately a certain kind of Islam, a certain kind of faith, that we must attack and marginalize if we ever want stability in the Islamic world.

Betsy Devine points to the secret agenda of Apple.#

However, these propagandists aren't just targeting the young. Take for example Apple Computers, makers of the popular Macintosh line of computers. The real operating system hiding under the newest version of the Macintosh operating system (MacOS X) is called... Darwin! That's right, new Macs are based on Darwinism! While they currently don't advertise this fact to consumers, it is well known among the computer elite, who are mostly Atheists and Pagans. Furthermore, the Darwin OS is released under an "Open Source" license, which is just another name for Communism. They try to hide all of this under a facade of shiny, "lickable" buttons, but the truth has finally come out: Apple Computers promote Godless Darwinism and Communism.

Seb quotes.#

"Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself." - Leo Tolstoy

Real Live Preacher gives a glimpse of inside a prison.#

Life in a Texas prison is death by a thousand cuts.

J. is smart, educated, repentant, and highly motivated to get out and rebuild some kind of life for herself. She has to use every possible resource she has, mental and physical, to avoid being beaten, raped, or harmed in some way. This is a startling new reality for her, but in spite of how terrible that sounds, her biggest fear is the guards. This is a privately operated prison in a small town. The guards make slightly above minimum wage, and in many cases, are just a step or two away from prison themselves. They are angry, resentful, and have terrible power to punish.

It's a jungle in there, and it takes everything she has to avoid being eaten alive doing her five.

Now imagine how she would fare if, like so many inmates, she was uneducated, abused throughout her childhood, and had no hope for any better life outside.

Real Live Preacher on the danger of thinking you're Jesus.#

A Scathing Review of Kill Bill.#

Does Vol. 1 stand on its own as a good film? Hell no. It's entertaining, mostly, but ultimately this film (these films) will live or die by the split: the decision to make one 300-minute film into two theatrical releases. Volume One comes to a partial conclusion but lacks many things. Who was Uma marrying? Why did her co-workers turn on her? Why have an entertaining but pointless 20-minute sword-buying scene? What's the significance of the film, what's it trying to say? Maybe all of these absences will be filled in the second half, but even if so, one huge question remains: would this film, a three hour and twenty minute revenge drama, work on its own? If not, there ya go. If so, why was it released as two films?

Balance that with Xkot and his review.#

Something that really struck me, which I haven't heard discussed elsewhere, is that Kill Bill is the strongest feminist statement in years. I'm not talking about the kind of feminism that goes to a protest march. These characters have more important things to do. I'm not talking about the lame "Girl Power" marketing slogan spewed by the Spice Girls as they shoved their silicone tits at the camera. The women in Kill Bill simply go about their business. Yes, they happen to be some of the most attractive women you'll ever see, but they don't give a damn. They don't need cleavage to get things done. They're cold-blooded killers first and foremost.

Not once does Tarantino's film get on a soapbox and say "See, women can be strong and independent!" Even movies with strong female heroes like Alien or Terminator 2 treated the strength of the women as something unusual. There was always a skeptical male character who questioned their ability. In Kill Bill the power of women is assumed. It is a fact.

Jorrit Wiersma writes about a talk he's giving about his PhD research.#

The title will be the same as my poster's: "Magnetic field generation in relativistic shocks." The aim of the talk is to give a sort of update on how my PhD research is going; we do these presentations about once or twice a year. I will talk about what I presented on my poster at the conference. The actual subject of my PhD research is "relativistic shocks" so I'm planning to take that as a starting point. From there, I want to give a short introduction with one slide (if it's possible) which shows a diagram or picture explaining in a general way what I want to say.

Normal (that is, non-relativistic) shocks should be pretty familiar to my fellow astrophysicists so I'll just remind them that normal shock waves heat, compress and accelerate gas that they run through. Relativistic shocks travel with a speed almost equal to the speed of light and this means that they involve a lot of energy. This is why they may include different phenomena from normal shocks. We do not see such shocks anywhere near or on earth so it is hard to study them. However, the observations that we have from sources that we suspect to involve relativistic shocks (pulsar winds, quasars, gamma-ray bursts) show one feature that seems to set relativistic (or at least very fast) shocks apart: non-thermal radiation (thermal radiation is produced by simply heating matter, like the light produced in a light bulb; non-thermal radiation has different properties and indicates some other process at work). In the situations where these shocks occur this means that there has to be a magnetic field (relativistic particles + magnetic fields = non-thermal radiation processes).

Michael Feldman writes his amazing, "Last Words on Baseball... Ever."#

Finally, the eighth inning arrived. Pedro was still on the mound, but he was flagging. The Yankees had runners on first and third. I knew the fateful moment had come, the moment I had dreaded, feared, and tried in vain to avoid or deny. The outcome of the game and the fate of the Red Sox season depended on what I, the Dowbrigade, did during the next few crucial moments.

I had foreseen this happening, in my tortured vision blogged just hours earlier, and I knew what I had to do, for the good of the team and cosmic balance in the universe. I couldn't watch another pitch. I had to make the ultimate sacrifice, and get up and walk away. I had to, as I had written earlier, hours before the game, "drain my last beer and stagger out into the chilly Cambridge night, ready to let the baseball gods have their way with me and the assembled multitudes, content to wait until the morning to find out the answer to the question he most wants answered, at that moment, in the whole wide world." If only I could be content to let things be, they would be all right. Only by letting go could I grasp that which I most deeply desired.

Joey deVilla quotes the Good Book...#

A man may possess expensive duds, slick wheels and a tongue to match, but these are not the prerequisites of a gentleman. A gentleman is defined by how he carries himself and stormy climes. A student of the classics and a pilot of the new, he recommends sizzling reads, pays his gambling debts, mans the grill, and curbs his dog. Reserved, flamboyant or likely somewhere in between, a gentleman's charisma is cultivated, not canned. He fosters an infectious comfort in others as they quietly marvel at his manner and his hats, from the erudite bowler to the plucky fedora. Little charms performed thoughtfully ensure that the inevitable faux pas are measured against a graceful reputation. He can be trusted with his word and your wife.

Joey has good advice, "Like I've said before: when life gives you SARS, make sarsaparilla."#

Sometimes you just need to let the girls go, Joey advises,#

"What are you thinking of doing?" I asked.

"Adult film. I know a director, and he says I'd be a natural. Tell you more later, I'm running late. Bye, Joey!" she said, and ran out the door.

I sat in stunned silence.

"You, my friend, have achieved the dream," said Chris. "Someday, you'll be able to point and say 'See that porn star? I dated her.' Those are serious bragging rights."

"I feel soiled, yet proud," I said, still stunned.

Lance Arthur is amazing.#

"I'd love to tell you that gets better as you mature, but I have to admit that some things take a very, very, very, very, very, very long time to change. Opinions are like assholes, kids. Everyone has one, and everyone thinks everyone else's stinks. And occasionally you're going to run into real life assholes. You won't recognize them at first, and an important lesson right off the bat is never to judge a book by its cover. Don't think that just because that guy at the end of the bar in the greasy jeans and the plaid shirt and the unkempt hair is leering at you is because he hates you. Chances are just as good that he wants to invite you out for tea and crumpets because, hey, everyone likes a little play acting once in a while.

"Barry, you look like you've got your shit back together and you look so sensitive and vulnerable right now that I'd love to take you home and show you my emotional scars in the shower, but we have to move right along. Before I completely abandon you like some fat-headed, scared, ignorant parent figure, I'll add here that you'll find it easier in life, overall, if you find your self-worth inside instead of relying on other people to provide it for you. By and large, whether you're gay or otherwise, your life will be a misery wrapped inside a depression when you want other people to be responsible for your ultimate happiness. They can certainly help you along that path, but there's no way they'll lay the bricks.

Wow.#

Alexander Payne needs an older woman.#

You know it's time to take the suggestion you've been getting from everyone that you should date older women when even your father's somewhat reserved Mexican wife urges it. So I took a hint, and had a positive response to my personals ad (where else is a full time, on-campus student to meet women over 25 who aren't grad students or profs?) inside of twenty minutes from a seemingly lovely lady. Keen.

Now mind you, I'm not talking about some same-age-as-my-mother Mrs. Robinson kinda business here. I'm thinking more along the 25-35 (later end of that spectrum) professional-woman-bored-with-lousy-Washington-men kind of deal. There's a precedent for it, too, one even more pronounced around DC where women often set serious relationships aside for their careers only to find ten years later that what's left of their unmarried male peers are, uh, "slim pickins" to say the least. That's where I, ideally, step in: a young man inexplicably possessed of tastes and interests more common to a gentleman of twice his years, yet still in command of his youthful vigor. Or something like that. It works out in my head. And if this quick response is any indication perhaps it works out in the real world, too.

It's not that I can't find females my own age attractive. It's just that attraction is a total package, and though it pains the son-of-a-feminist reflexes in me to say this, that total package gets ripped apart pretty quickly when most of the young women I meet open their mouths. It could just be that my school doesn't attract together, mature young women. Or maybe, as it's been with so many things all my life, I'm finding that even in love I'm more comfortable with people older than I.

Charles Miller has some advice for script writers of Ensemble Superhero Movies.#

s a final note, something that isn't script-related at all. An action sequence is a narrative.

You wouldn't have a scene where all the characters were shouting at each other so loud you couldn't work out what anyone was saying, yet that seems to be de rigeur for action sequences at the moment. An action sequence must tell a story, and it is incredibly important that even in the midst of chaos, it is obvious who is doing what to whom, and why.

Haven't we learned from Hong Kong action movies yet? Pull the cameras back a bit, and space out the edits. Let us see the shape of the scene, and linger long enough on each event that it melds into the choreography.

This is a teaser to set the stage for his Kill Bill Review.

If you're working in Hollywood, and planning on making it big with stylish gratuitous violence, give up now. You'll never top Kill Bill.

Kill Bill has been widely criticised as the triumph of style over substance. The movie says nothing. Sure enough, they're right. This movie goes absolutely nowhere, but then again, neither does a rollercoaster. You go up and down, get spun around and exhilarated, but in the end you come to a stop exactly where you started.

Ryan McGee also writes about Kill Bill.#

Back when I saw "The Matrix: Reloaded", I found that the fight scenes, while well choreographed, left me cold, because no one got hurt. Not a scratch. Constant block and parry. The two sides usually negated one another, leaving one of the two to generally run off to fight to a draw another day. In "Kill Bill", we get a hyperviolent, hyperrealistic world, but we get one that has the same threshold for pain as ours. These fights HURT in a way I've just never seen onscreen before. The characters fight better than just about anyone you've ever seen, but they fight at a inch from death at every moment. The stakes, virtually nonexistent in "Reloaded", are omnipresent in "Kill Bill". Uma Thurman rocks, but is far from Superman. Her powers come from a far different source, which I'll get to in a minute.

Charles Miller has some important advice on the Web and Google.#

It is not the job of the Web to conform to Google's search algorithms!

The web does not exist to serve Google. The web should not stay stagnant so as not to break its search engine. The web evolves continuously. It is up to Google to change itself to adapt to what people want to do with the Web. If Google can not adapt, then one day we will talk of it in the same way we speak of Altavista, Metacrawler, Excite or Hotbot: search engines we used to rely on, but that were each eclipsed by something better.

Philip Greenspun wonders how Hollywood can completely change stories when moving from books to movies.#

Surana posts his take on the Chinese Space Program.#

But why would China be interested in an expensive space program when NASA is facing budget cuts and Russia can not maintain their own program? I'm usually not one for conspiracy theories, but here's my spin on the space race. The US and USSR began their space programs to develop intercontinental missile technology, space-based spy satellites and weapons. Of course, how do you mobilize the scientific community and get zillions of federal dollars for a new military program? You sell it as a "race to the moon" and a patriotic mission to beat the Other side (USSR vs. US). If you read the pre-NASA history timeline, you see that the years before NASA were a period of intense military competition between the two countries. The President made ICBM R&D the nation's highest priority, consolidated research under the Air Force and quickly rolled out solid-fuel ICBMs in the mid-50s. ARPA was founded in 1958 to develop anti-missile technology, military satellites, and other space stuff. The NACA (NASA's precursor) director made a speech emphasizing the military need for missile and space research, and recommended NACA be established under the Defense dept. Instead, NASA was founded later that year as a civilian agency, but there was no doubt that technology developed by NASA was going to be used by the military.

My point is that the space program in the US and USSR was brilliantly sold as "man's exploration of the stars", but it was really a cover for a massive R&D investment in missile and space technology for military uses. Now that China has reached a point where it forsees possible confrontations with the US in the future, it needs to develop it's ICBM program and launch military satellites without relying on another country. Since Russia is chummy with the West, China must have its own program. In fact, there's no reason not to do it. (1) The Chinese people love it, (2) they develop lots of military technology, (3) they don't rely on anyone else to launch their satellites, and (4) they can start a business launching satellites for other people. Think about it: China can't even rely on GPS, a service controlled by the US military and the linchpin for modern arms.

Of course, China is so far behind the US it really doesn't matter right now. But make no mistake that China's successful space program is the first small step in the next big arms war.

Ole Eichhorn on iTunes for Windows.#

So - Hell Froze Over. That's how Steve Jobs introduced Apple's iTunes for Windows yesterday, in his inimitable fashion. Of course I immediately downloaded and installed it (I'm listening to Acoustic Alchemy in iTunes right now), and it looks and works exactly like the Mac version. Interesting and nice. In this CNet clip from the announcement Steve emphasizes "this is no baby version of iTunes, it is the best jukebox for Windows, and maybe the best Windows app ever". No, he isn't given to hyperbole, is he? So now virtually the entire desktop universe has a usable legal paid download alternative to file-sharing. It will be interesting to watch the numbers.

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[ Later: Wow, just learned something new which was under-reported but potentially really important. iTMS has an "allowance" feature, which let's parents give their kids money for buying music without giving them free-reign on the credit card. I'm going to use this immediately. Excellent! ]

Joel Spolsky writes about how Microsoft cares about its developers.#

There was one catch, which is why I refrained from signing up for Empower in the past: you had to go through a fairly annoying sign up process which included lots of non-optional questions about things like your annual revenues and how many employees you have... information points that I didn't really feel like Microsoft needed to have in their big fat Potential Competitors database, so when Bill Gates woke up one morning and decided to do a SQL query to find all the software companies that were ripe for a little friendly competition from Redmond.

One day Paul Gomes, a developer evangelist working out of Microsoft's New York office, called me up, [...] "Why didn't you sign up for Empower?" he asked.

I told him how I thought it was offensive that Microsoft wanted data on my sales and number of employees. "You're a platform vendor, but also a potential competitor, so I'm sensitive about that stuff," I said.

"I hear you," he said, and proceeded to call up the ISV relations group back at Redmond. They called me back and walked through the signup procedure, and I told them which questions I thought were inappropriate. Then they did something which surprised me: they made every one of those questions optional. Not just for me, for everyone.

Dating Advice from Chrystal.#

4. This note is especially for college guys. There is this thing -- it's called a 'date.' It could involve something as simple as a movie, but try it sometime. Your couch is nice, but it's also nice to go out sometimes. Otherwise how else will we know we're different from say your friend Mo.

5. Yeah, that's right. I said MO.

6. Do not confess your love for someone within the first 3 weeks of dating. It will freak them out. Psycho.

7. If you're a hot guy, stop having a girlfriend. What's wrong with you MAN? Why can't you be single for me?

8. It's always best to talk about your feelings face to face, but if you must do it in a different form, don't be drunk. That invalidates anything you have to say.